Coming Home to Self: Nervous System Healing, Safety & Remembering Who You Are

There is a moment when striving gets quiet.

When pushing dissolves.
When the body finally exhales & whispers, “You’re safe now.”

In Episode 131 of the Choose On Purpose Podcast, Ashley Schouten & I step into a conversation that is less about fixing & more about remembering. Remembering who you were before the world taught you to brace, perform, or stay small.

This episode is an invitation to come home to yourself.

Ashley shares how nervous system healing was not a dramatic breakthrough moment, but a series of small, intentional choices that rebuilt safety from the inside out. Safety in her body. Safety in slowing down. Safety in trusting herself again.

One of the most powerful themes woven throughout our conversation is this truth:
Healing doesn’t require force. It requires presence.

We talk about how mindfulness in the simplest moments, washing your hands, caring for your skin, noticing your breath, can become anchors that gently retrain the nervous system to feel supported rather than rushed.

Ashley reflects on how these micro-moments of intention created a domino effect. The more present she became, the more she could see herself clearly. The more she could see herself, the more compassion replaced criticism.

“I’m learning to remember the real me. & I love her.” 

This episode also explores the role of mentorship & coaching in nervous system healing. Sometimes we are so deep inside our own patterns that we can’t read the label from within the jar. Having someone reflect truth back to you isn’t a weakness, it’s a regulated form of support.

At its core, this episode of the Choose On Purpose podcast is about reclaiming grace.
Giving yourself permission to soften.
Letting safety be the foundation instead of something you earn.

If you’ve been feeling disconnected from yourself, stuck in survival mode, or craving a gentler way to grow, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are!

✨ Tune into Episode 131 now on YouTube, Spotify, or Apple Podcasts & allow yourself to remember what safety feels like in your body again.

Love yourself, live fearlessly, & do all things with purpose,
Becky Plautz
Confidence In Action Coach, Empowerment Photographer, & Host of the Choose On Purpose Podcast

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